First Mother's Day without my mum

Hi 

this will be the first Mother's Day without my amazing mum. She died of metastatic BC in January and this week has been hard. 

During the weekend I was in Benidorm with 12 of her friends for a holiday she has booked for her 50th birthday but didn't make it :( ... the minute i got off the plane back home I felt sad. And now with Sunday coming up I'm really struggling.

it absolutely breaks me that I'm only 26 and I will never see my mum again. She didn't deserve it, she was amazing, she was so much fun and I just can't get my head around it :(. All I want is to hug her again, go shopping with her, go into her room at night and say goodnight but I can't 

 

  • Feeling exactly the same here, trying to avoid programmes with adverts as everything is about Mothers Day. It hurts so much x

  • I know how you feel, the first one without mine as well :( I will still be buying a mothers day card and put it near the tree where her ashes were spread. 

    god bless x

  •  also going throu the same but lost my mum in November to meterstatic breast cancer all ways here is you need a chat x

  • I really feel your pain. I lost mum early hours of Tuesday morning to bc and I'm dreading this weekend I'm only 33 with 3 children including a 1yr old. I feel I'm falling to pieces trying to keep everybody going. I broke down today in the florists I should be ordering her flowers for Sunday instead I'm arranging funeral flowers. Sending you hugs xx

  • I lost my mum to secondary bone cancer on 18th Feb this year. I know exactly how you feel. I feel robbed of her. My mum was only diagnosed in December and I miss her so so much. Thoughts with you x

  • Oh my love , my mum died in feb . It’s so hard i keep having the anger that she was to young and I’m to young , but you are younger . And your mum younger . 2 days after mother’s day it’s my mums 60th that she so wanted to get to . It really really sucks I don’t know what to say to you , I don’t even know what to try and tell myself . Just needed to reply to this . Your are not alone   !

    Have you properly got your head around it . I think I still think it’s not real . That sounds mad I know . We only had 8 weeks from diognosis and it feels like it was all so quick I think it’s taking me a while to fully get to grips with it . 

    What are you doing Sunday ?have you got anything in mind ? I have no idea !! Xx 

     

     

  • Hi . Sorry I saw your reply and it is kind of simalar to me . my my was diagnosed 16 dec and died 16th feb . How are you coping ? 

  • Hello,

    I’m sorry to hear what your going through. My mom had the same, she passed away 4th March having being diagnosed in January. We didn’t expect what happened. It was her funeral today and I am too thinking about this weekend. I’ve been staying away from shops and muting adverts. I won’t look at social media this weekend as I don’t want to see all the photos of friends with their moms and all the messages posted. It’s still too raw. I don’t know how Sunday will go. I’m 32 and just feel robbed. I miss out shopping days and going for coffee and cake and gossip sessions and her advise. I hope you’re ok, always here if you would like to talk x

  • I am so sorry for your loss. <3 

    It's my first Mothers Day without my beautiful little mumma too & I am really finding it hard. She passed away on the 7th Feb, it was her birthday on the 16th Feb, her funeral on the 26th Feb, I had my 23rd birthday on 2nd March and I got married on the 9th March (we all thought she would be there for the big day, even the nurses) and now there is Mothers Day to deal with!! :( :( :( I still can't believe she has really gone. 

    Mothers Day is advertised everywhere, I am just trying to numb myself to the word and think of the happy times we have spent together and avoid soical media. I have my dad & we are going to my in-laws tomorrow for some dinner. 

    xxxx